Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Married Men and Bachelor Parties



(actual photo from the weekend ^^^)
So a crew of five of us were in Key West for a birthday celebration over the weekend, and mind you it is wedding season. We met so many bachelor parties it was unbelievable. Well this one particular group was a bunch of older gentlemen (ages 27-33) who work on Wall Street or in law, finance, insurance, etc in LA, NYC, and Boston. Basically they do really well in their fields and all were ivy league. Their bills at Dante's were over $790 both Saturday and Sunday...ahem, what?!

So maybe their deep pockets attributed to their egocentric behavior, but I couldn't accept any excuses for the lack of respect these men showed for their significant others. "Forgetting" to wear wedding bands, inappropriate dancing and grabbing, flirting, territorial antics, saying they didn't like labels, etc. There were only 4 single guys out of the 14 in their crew, and they were more respectful than the married/fiance fellows. I could not gather why the married guys would do this or think it's okay. Or why my friend justified it as them "just having fun." I'm not giving the credit to the great guys-it was proven possible to be friends and to actually just have fun because most of the guys did just that, without adding anything extra (flirting etc) to stroke their big heads. I respected them and hung around them. The ones in the wrong felt guilty I guess because they started trying to explain themselves and suck up.

If any of those boys were mine, I would not be able to trust them if I saw what they were doing when I wasn't around to see.  Sure, nothing happened so far as we know, but their actions were the gateway drug, so to speak...plus they added alcohol so goodbye better judgement and a big hello to the cliff's edge that just got that much closer.  Why would you see just how far you can go? Why would you put yourself where it gets harder to prevent the fall? You're only going to end up pushing further and further and before you know it, you've done something extremely unsettling that would crush someone you love. Ergo, ruining your life you worked so hard to create and build.

No you're not "just having fun," you're looking for a selfish rush. Self control and commitment to selfless sacrifice rings in there and I don't respect cheating in any form, "minor" or major.