Could it be that the way lots of folks live now (in carefree, surface relationships and such) are what is really killing relationships that are satisfying? On the other side of the spectrum are the people who get all too excited when they do find someone that they rush into marriage...these mentions are all extremes. Fear of any commitment, getting what you need from multiple people, or blindly diving in before checking the pool signs.
Also, personal sidebar, I noticed my family has a history of choosing the rebels as their counterparts. Literally (all from the women's angle in choice, because the women are ultimately the choosers), my grandmothers chose rebels. My mom did. All of my aunts did. Great aunts hold an exception but they were still going for badass army/marine men...and I only knew them after they settled down a bit. Their stories are top gun epic.
Thinking about it further...most women do choose the badass guy. This infuriates nice fellows to no end. It has to be the "special" feeling people seek. They want to be the unique one he chooses over all of the others....except meanwhile the joke is on the girls...because they likely have more than one "special" friend, never letting one commitment get too close.
So in considering my papa, he has amazing stories from growing up-seriously amazing, (read: we are all missing out). My granny, the town Laurel Queen title holder, chose him. She had her pickings and she chose the one who life would be fun with. Life was slower paced then, and careful. It wasn't cool to be careless. Their relationship was built slow, with respect and love. It's still strong today.
